We’ve been getting a lot of questions from our friends, family, and readers… about when we’re going to get pregnant again. I must be pretty transparent, or y’all can read my mind or something. I definitely have the baby itch… what with two giant almost-one-year-olds and all. Who wouldn’t be ready for another baby or two?
At the risk of being a major bummer, we’re going to wait a couple of years. We’d like to pay off our existing hospital bills (we hadn’t planned on 3 weeks in the NICU), as well as some student loans.
Also, it wouldn’t hurt to have the girls potty trained. Can I get an amen?
But thinking of my two little embryos, frozen somewhere a hundred miles away… well it makes me ache a little. I feel a little defensive, like I should fight for custody or something. Or at least get visitation rights. I desperately want to feel them kicking inside me. If we knew the genders, they would probably already have names.
But at the same time, it’s hard not to assume those two tiny embryos are little people, because the cold hard truth is… one, or worse both, might not take. I’m unsure about how devastating that effect may be. Especially knowing first-hand what those little microscopic cells turn into.
I just thought it was time for an update on the Embryo part of our title.
Unlike last time, we’re planning on taking our readers along for the ride. The IVF ride. So you’ll have that emotional gory mess to look forward to.
Just this morning, as my little monkeys were crawling all over me, and my heart felt so full… I can’t help but ache for the injustice that infertility brings. The anguish that so many live everyday. It’s still fresh. It’s changed me forever.
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Reading about your infertility brought tears to my eyes. I’ve been there. Now I don’t have endometriosis, but after 5 IUIs and 1 IVF from age 26-30, all failing, my husband and I turned to adoption. After 2 years of waiting and losing $10,000 to a failed South African adoption, we were blessed with the chance to adopt a week old baby locally out of the blue. The birth mother chose us out of 4 couples.
Our angel is a year and a half old, and the time has been so previous to us that I dont think about the $25,000 and 8 years it took us to become parents. I just see my beautiful daughter…..yours are beautiful too! Congratulations, and I glad it only took you 1 try to achieve your dream.
What a looooong road. I’m SO glad you got your miracle. 🙂 Thank you for sharing your story.
I love reading your blog! I find that we have very much in common. I love to redo old furniture, and transform old things into new things. My husband and I have also been trying to have a baby for 7 years with no luck. But we still have faith that its going to happen. I will be reading your blog much more in the future 🙂 Thanks for sharing!
I’m glad there’s someone out there who is brave enough to share their struggle. I went through something similar and after my 3 year old twins and 16 month old, we have decided to use 2 of our 4 frozen embryos. I am nervous about the expense of more children, but, I too, feel that my babies are out there waiting to be part of the family and I just couldn’t destroy them. So we shall see what happens in the next couple of months. Thanks for sharing your story.
Dina in Texas
Are you planning a frozen embryo transfer or are you actually going to do a fresh IVF cycle?
Thanks for posting again about this. I also appreciate that you have not forgotten the journey that you two had to take to get where you are today. I also appreciate that you have not forgotten other infertile couples that are still struggling and you strive to be sympathetic. Thank you from more than just one reader.
Your babies are beautiful and I can’t wait for you to be pregnant again and to hear your story again.
Deborah
You’ve made me laugh out loud AND get all teary eyed! I love reading your blog! I love your swet personality! Thanks so much for sharing your life with us! 🙂
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such a difficult decision, everyone is different. You will know when the time is right. Good luck. Mary in NY
I think waiting till the girls are potty trained and medical bills are paid down is a great plan.
My 1&2 child are five years apart, and I loved that. I had a couple months with the 2 of them together and than child 1 went to kindergarten and it was so nice having so much time with child 2. 2&3 are 39 months apart and that is hard for me. Child 2 will be going to kindergarten this fall & child 3 is going to miss her sister so much.
I really admire your restraint! I, too, would have a really hard time waiting to hold them knowing their development is on hold a hundred miles away!!
You are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for! We are also praying for a very happy outcome when you decide to transfer! You and Nick are so much more patient than me!
Miss you… and I owe you a hug! See you VERY soon!
I will be praying for you and Nick and your future little one(s) and look forward to supporting you through your journey. I agree, the infertility struggle is something that changed me and the way I see/think of others forever. Thank you for being so brave as to share your very personal feelings and thoughts for those of us that can’t.
I love reading your blogs, Beth. Good stuff!!! Entertaining, educational and heartwarming. Sometimes I feel as though I’ve made a new friend.