WARNING: nobody likes a post without pictures… and since it would be gross for me to photograph events that I’m about to discuss, I’ve found some fun topic-appropriate images to share for your enjoyment.
As you know, we potty-trained Paisley 8 days ago. She hasn’t worn a diaper since (except to bed). Seeing as she’s 19 months old, I know it’s pretty remarkable. And it would be easy (and awesome) to take credit for this massive success, but the truth is… SHE WAS JUST READY.
There are lots of signs that your child is ready (waking up from naps with a dry diaper, not liking the feel of a wet diaper, etc) but the way I knew Paisley was ready is that she told me when she was pooping. She would say ‘poo poo’ and grab her diaper. She’s been doing that for months, and in the last few weeks she’s been telling us when she’s been going potty in her diaper.
I attribute this to her intelligence, desire to please, and the fact that ever since she was a little baby I could tell when she was pooping. And when she was pooping, I would say, ‘are you going poo poo? Good girl!’ and I would praise her so she knew it was good! So when she was old enough to communicate with me (ish), she wanted me to know she was pooping! And eventually (to my surprise) peeing too!
I’ve gotten tons of requests to share our secrets here on the blog, but we don’t have any secrets really. But for posterity, this is how we did it!
We took Adelyn to Grandpa and Grandma’s for the weekend, so we could give our full undivided attention to Paisley. We used the potty-training format from this website, because this lady had had wild success potty training all 4 of her children with this method. I’m not going to go over it with you (your welcome to read the whole thing for yourself), but in the end… we ended up ditching most of the strategies suggested.
The fact is, Paisley is too young to understand being rewarded. I thought she would totally dig the sticker and single M&M for each potty success, but she didn’t seem to care or understand why she was receiving it. Our excitement was enough of a reward for her. We’re lucky that she has a people-pleasing-spirit!
The one thing that we did find very helpful was having a ‘baby wet doll’ that drinks water from a bottle, and then pees it out. This helped Paisley visualize what was going to happen ‘down there’ and what was expected of her with regards to the toilet. (we ordered our doll here)
Then, we pumped her full of liquids. We normally don’t give the girls juice (just a splash of apple juice with their full sippy-cup of water), but on this day, we wanted her to have TONS of opportunities to ‘learn’! So I bought a couple bottles of generic V8 fruit juice blends, and filled up her sippy cup without diluting at all. SHE CHUGGED IT all day like she had been dehydrated and roaming the desert for days.
We used the adult toilet with a potty ring instead of a potty chair, because we wanted to be able to hear the tinkle tinkle with confidence, so we could immediately praise her! She sat on the potty a couple times with no success, and there were a couple accidents… but eventually we caught her at just the right time and she went potty on the john like a full-blown adult! I was ecstatic. She looked really confused and worried the first time she started peeing. But all the enthusiasm and excitement in the room confirmed to her that she was doing good!
That’s it my people. After that, she told us every time she had to go. Those first two days, there were a couple accidents… but we kept her in her underwear anyway, and let her know that we loved her anyway. By the end of day two, she was completely potty trained and hasn’t had an accident since.
We’ve even had a couple outings since then, and she’s pulled through with flying stars. She even pooped in the public bathrooms (EW) at a restaurant yesterday! Please pass the hand sanitizer?
Are you rolling your eyes, and disappointed that I don’t have a magical potty-training strategy to share? I told you! It was all her.
Once again, HERE is the link to the potty-training format we used (which I do recommend).
And HERE is a great article that my sister-in-law Kelly wrote on the matter.
Let’s discuss the reasons I think it was beneficial to potty train so early (although some kids just plain aren’t ready or interested, and it’s fine to wait too!):
- They’re not yet at a age of full-blown defiance and tantrums.
- They don’t yet have strong opinions, and if they do… they can’t verbalize them!
- They’re still helpless enough that they know and trust that you’re doing what’s best for them.
- It’ll save you a truckload of money on diapers!
Before you get all hateful… know that I still have one more 19-month-old to train, and she just may give me a run for my money. I’m definitely not getting cocky. I know how lucky I am that Paisley caught on so quick. And the biggest blessing is that she always TELLS us she has to go. None of this setting-the-timer hassle.
Wish me luck with Dell?
I’m happy to answer any and all questions in the comment section!
You gotta buy the cool, very cool favorite cartoon character “Big Boy” pants, HANES makes them. And they will not mess them up. I have boys that both were trained to use the toilet by the time they were 2. Who can pee on their favorite “Good Guy”? They were ready too. So, make no mistake…it’s about prompting and bribing..
Read this just like a newish potty to be training mom. My boys are 28 and 31!! Both of them weren’t easy, but I didn’t force anything. I just waited for my oldest to show interest, which he did for peeing but not pooping! We spent a few months (when he was 4!!!) putting a diaper on him to poop. Sounds kinda dumb but I wasn’t going to criticize him about any of it. He learned and he is the best man kid.
My second son, however, wasn’t a piece of cake at all. We finally played him with m&m’s and it worked! So, to each his own. They don’t go to high school in diapers!!!
My twins were ready ( you are so correct that it’s not you…it’s the toddler that’s ready!)at VERY different times-
my daughter was one and a half years, my son almost three.
Son had NO motivation etc to do what his sister was doing.
He didn’t care about the M and Ms, the accolades…just not interested. When he WAS ready, however, he trained in two days and never had an accident-ever.
It’s all good when they are ready. If more parents respected their kids time frames-instead of rushing them along-it would be a good thing.
Good luck with number two-and yes, IMO, I’d take the time to address it with her by herself, as well.
Congrats! our daughter is 20 months old- she likes to sit on the potty, but I am TOO BUSY to potty train her like you say to. She probably could be potty trained if we put in the effort, though. Thanks for sharing, and good luck with the other one. PS- I really enjoy your blog, thanks.
You are super-mom! You helped create the awareness early… Paisley is a bit of a rockstar too. Proud aunt moment!!
Best of luck with Dell 🙂 I’m curious to know how differently you may have to approach her.
Me too! It’ll be interesting for sure. I’m planning to wait a few weeks (at least) before tackling Dell. Paisley still has to go pretty frequently, and I’m tired of going back and forth to the bathroom! 🙂
I can’t decide if I should just start putting Dell on a potty chair each time Paisley has to go, and hope it just happens naturally, or if we should formally potty train her over a weekend like we did with Paisley. Thoughts?
We did the potty training in a day method too and one of mine potty trained in a day at 2.5. I wish I’d used it on my other girls. 🙂
My daughter learned in a day at 18 months too. Like you said, when they’re ready it’s quite easy. I think the key is believing they can be ready so young. I’ve heard of parents ignoring these cues and later having a difficult time getting the child to learn.
That is awesome bethany! Happy for you and Paisley! Now that Paisley is potty trained, maybe her sister will be more motivated to learn as well by watching Pais?? Good job!