You guys… AHHHH!
Craziest of all crazy weeks!
Sorry for the lack of blogging this week. I’ve been finishing up some projects that I’m SUPER excited to share…soooooon! Thanks for you patience!
Additionally, I’d like to take this opportunity to just say that lately being a mommy is kicking my butt. I know that I’m not really allowed to feel that way after all that we went through to become parents… but wow. I’m emotionally exhausted, and sometimes I just want to cry.
And… WHAT ARE YOU SAYING when you point and say ‘BAH”’?
I wish they could just tell me what they want, because they’re getting frustrated and I’M getting frustrated. Do you ever just wish that you could sleep for a week straight, knowing you would awaken refreshed and ready to be an awesome parent?
To my ladies that are trying to conceive, I’m soooo sorry for this rant. I just needed to get it out. I’m still painfully aware of how lucky I am to have two beautiful and healthy girls. I’ve succumbed to a moment of weakness for sure.
I promise to return tomorrow… let’s pretend like this post never happened, shall we?
You’ll never get these 5 minutes back. Sorry about that.
I think you should check out this that my cousin wrote and posted on her Facebook page. It is so true and I am sure all mothers (and fathers) can relate. I couldn’t figure out how to make the link you could click on it, so you will need to copy and paste the link below into your browser. Trust me, it’s an awesome read 🙂
p.s. I hope the link works
https://www.facebook.com/robin.richardson.58958#!/notes/heather-amber-iverson/a-letter-to-my-51-year-old-self/10151241031216492think
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It was during times like these I would call my sweet neighbor girl who would come play with Aly and be around while the babies were sleeping. She was so great and allowed me an hour or two at the local Walmart. 😉
Thank you…maybe a little late.
lol I love the last one that said eat that sweet you’ve been saving not to eat 🙂 that’s definitely a destressor for me. You can call me on those bad days. I have them too 🙂 asking them a different question is a good idea too.
Too many choices are overwhelming to babies and their mommas! Hold out two possibilities and move away from the location and say “banana” or “apple” (for example) Usually, they will be diverted and choose one of your options. If not, “come show momma what you mean” sometimes works. Then there’s always the “sorry, this is what you’re having” and “let’s go play in the other room” that work to divert. And of course, there’s the good old-fashioned cry you have while they’re napping on a particularly stressful day followed by some sweet you had vowed not to eat. But those days allow us to really enjoy the others, sometimes. ((((hugs))))
It’s okay to have those days. You are human. Not superwoman. I am the mother of a 10 month old, have a full time job as well, it drains you sometimes! You are doing great!!!
Baby signs! They’re a lifesaver!
I love your blog. I’m an Iowa too. Go Cyclones!
Totally okay to be honest…that’s what is so great about your blog! Some days are awesome and some are physically and emotionally exhausting! Doesn’t mean you love them any less or any less grateful for them 🙂 You rock!!
This post was actually encouraging for me, at least I know that my son isn’t the only one who points in a direction stating ‘Bah! Bah?!’ and me guessing and trying a million different things. My son recently turned 2 and for the past few months has been playing what I call the “go-game.” He will point and tell me to go into the kitchen but then freak out when I head that direction and point back to the living room saying GO! so I head back to the living room, then he points towards his room….it would be a never ending game if I didn’t stop it! It’s like he doesn’t know what he wants, he does the same thing with snack time- he’ll shake his head and say no, but then cry if I put it back…drives me CRAZY!!! The only thing I can do is try to please him the first few times and then I just have to set him down and let him cry. Sometimes he screams, cries, and hangs on to my legs for a good 20 -30 minutes while I’m trying to cook or clean and then some days he stands in the living room alone crying for about 10 minutes and then starts playing. My point is I guess, he eventually figures out a way to make himself happy. Sometimes it’s hard for us to know what they want because I don’t think they really know what they want sometimes. The way I see it, I try comforting him, and then if it doesn’t work I let him cry out his tantrum while I do dishes or put laundry away and it’s much more relaxing than trying to hold a squirming/screaming toddler during a tantrum.
Hang in there!! I just had a week like this (last week) with my little one, I was a train wreck of tears! I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL! Just remember, they grow fast and it gets better…like, day by day. This week, it’s like I have a whole new baby – my sister in law passed on the wisdom of “the days are long but the years are short”…just the nature of parenting, I guess. 🙂 I think you are doing awesome, and regardless of being able to feel confident in knowing exactly what they need all of the time, YOU are exactly what they need, and even in crying, with whatever baby emotions they have, they are happy just that you are there for them. Let me put it this way, they cry because they KNOW that you are there for them. It’s a relief to see posts like this, because it helps remind readers like me that I’m not alone, all moms go through this, and their babies are thriving and doing great. Thanks for the honest sharing. 🙂
-Stephanie T.
It’s definitely okay to have those moments. No one ever doubts that you are grateful and blessed to have them. Life is just frustrating and sometimes overwhelming. It’s okay to acknowledge that.
I think everyone has those moments with their kids. It’s just part of being a parent! And with twins you definitely get a double dose (speaking from experience!). I definitely didn’t take anything you said as being ungrateful. Parenthood is a roller coaster. Just as I feel like I’m figuring things out my kids change and it’s time to learn the new stuff! Good luck! Know you aren’t alone!
Pray that God will use this time to soften your heart to Him and change you into the parent He desires you to be.
I know how hard it is to not understand them, and this may not help in the immediate time frame, but you should look into baby sign language. Baby Signing Time is a brand of videos that I played for my (now 2 year old) little girl, and she was obsessed! Plus, it really helped her communicate to me and lessen the frustration when she was trying to ask for something. I’m sorry you are having a bad day – just breathe and know that tomorrow you get a do-over!
Oh Beth – we all go through it. Whether you are a new mother tending to the day to day activities of tending for your babies or an old mother trying to help your grown kids get a home ready to move into or babysitting the grandkids for a week. DO NOT FEEL BAD! That is the mother in you. You want to be perfect in every aspect of raising your family. But you can’t be, no one can. It’s ok to vent! We all feel that way one time or other (or two or three or twenty!!) This too shall pass! Have a glass of wine, put your feet up and relax! Just come back tomorrow with a vengeance!!!
Ah…everyone is entitled to a moment of weakness. Don’t beat yourself up!